# 1 When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete
us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find
that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with
somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until
we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives,
we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else
can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves
dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we
 #3 "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all"
 #4  "Love is not a matter of counting the years ... But making the years count"
a heart representing love how to catch him and keep him